I am not a fan of buffets, even the most lavish. They are a reminder of when I was one hundred pounds heavier. Piling food on for more than one trip was my norm. I did not have the understanding or self-love to scan the buffet and make choices that were healthy for me. Because I still have the overweight brain, food serves as my way to explain what’s in my heart.
I woke this morning thinking about a lavish buffet and its correlation to dating, love, long-term relationships and life in general. There are so many choices. The buffet can be overwhelming. Why did I come to the buffet? Am I hungry and trying to fill a void? Do I desire the dish that will sustain me? Do I want something sweet to just curb a craving, or comfort food that will stick to my ribs and feed my soul?
The buffet can be a dangerous place. We can overindulge. This results in feeling physically and emotionally sick. Choosing dessert after dessert will deliver a roller coaster of blood sugar highs and lows. Only eating salad will leave you craving something more.
Like all the entrees, sides and desserts on a buffet, love is about making a choice. We need the initial aromas from the buffet to spark a desire, just as the chemistry when we meet someone of interest. Soon, we get used to the aroma and it does not entice us to partake in the buffet. The honeymoon is over. It’s time to decide if we want to stay with what we have chosen to eat, get something new or leave the buffet.
Now it is work. Getting a clean plate every trip and heading to the same spot on the buffet becomes a burden. We know this is the best choice offered. It is nutritious, will sustain us, enhances our health, and it is the most delicious of all the choices. Yet, we struggle.
Circumstances surrounding the buffet can be a distraction. These will keep you from coming back to the same spot. Other people crowd your way. You can no longer see your targeted dish. The bus boy stops his cart in front of you, and you can’t get there. Is it worth it? Is the best on the buffet worth fighting through the crowd and the circumstances? It is your choice as the consumer to decide.
We can always leave the buffet for a while. Eventually we all get hungry, and we come back. What will we choose then? Remember, love is a choice. It is an act of the will that with proper time and nutrition is what will sustain you through life’s ups and downs. Only love can bring pure happiness. Take a risk. Be vulnerable. Share your heart, and love always! Know I love you all!
Tell me what’s going on in your life. I want to hear from you.
Wishing you love balance and peace.
Amore & Baci,
Just Steph
